Become a Leader Yourself

When a situation calls upon you to demonstrate leadership skills, those skills need to come to the fore naturally and instantly. And because all good leaders share the same qualities, you can imprint these upon your unconscious mind using hypnosis.

Perhaps you are a manager or want to organize people in a sporting context or maybe you want to rise to the top of your profession. Whatever the context, being a leader; knowing how to lead and, importantly, feeling like a leader will be a huge bonus.

• Leaders know how to inspire which means they exude confidence.
• Leaders know how to positively influence others without seeming bossy or over bearing.
• Leaders know how to be a part of the team and don't seek glory for themselves at the expense of others (although they do gain great respect as a by-product of their leadership).
• Leaders have 'grace under fire'. Leaders know how to think on their feet which means they are calm.
• Leaders have confidence and are not afraid to make mistakes and take responsibility.
• Leaders are not control freaks - they know how to delegate and trust others to do well.
• Leaders look like leaders - not in physical stature but in the way they move, speak and relate to others. When you feel like a leader you will have the body language of a leader.

Be a Leader will inspire you with confidence and help program your instincts with the leadership edge. To truly be a leader you need confidence and calm. Only when you are calm can you see clearly what needs doing. This powerful hypnotic session will help you become a true leader.

3G Mobiles Internet access

Previously, we discussed how to select a wireless Internet access method for corporate laptops. Most workers who choose 3G wireless will either buy a new laptop with embedded 3G or add a new 3G card to an existing laptop. But don't overlook a third option that just might prove less expensive, so why not use a 3G phone for Internet access.

Benefits and limitations

Embedded and after-market 3G adapters provide Internet access by connecting a host (i.e., laptop, desktop, PDA) to a carrier's EV-DO or HSDPA data network. Embedded 3G is the most convenient option for those who require very frequent on-the-go Internet access. An after-market PC or Express card is slightly less convenient, and these small devices may be mislaid, stolen or broken. Both have a costly down-side: 3G adapters require their own service subscription, usually with a long-term contract. Going 3G this way commits you to spending Rs.4000-8000/month for the next one to two years, depending on your carrier and data limit.

Alternatively, a mobile worker who has already purchased a 3G phone, or who expects to do so in the near future, should consider tethering that phone to his or her laptop. Depending on your phone and laptop, those two devices may be linked using Bluetooth, Infrared (IrDA), USB cable or serial cable. The tethered host treats the linked 3G phone as a modem, using dial-up networking or a carrier-supplied wireless connection manager to initiate calls to the carrier's network.

The main advantage of cell phone tethering is the ability to get more mileage out of a single 3G subscription. Travelers who already pay for unlimited wireless data on a RAZR, BlackBerry, Blackjack or similar handset may find it less expensive to tether that phone instead of buying a separate wireless adapter and service plan. For example, a Verizon Broadband Access Data subscriber will pay an extra Rs.1500 per month to add the Broadband Access Connect feature (tethering) to an existing Smartphone account, without incurring a card activation fee or requiring another service contract.

Tethering is a good way to trial 3G laptop connectivity without making a long-term commitment. It can also help 3G subscribers satisfy both Smartphone and laptop wireless Internet access needs at a lower total monthly cost. But there are drawbacks:

Those who don't already have a compatible phone, or don't already have a data plan for that handset, could end up spending more for both than the price of a dedicated 3G wireless adapter. Those with limited MB-per-month plans may need to upgrade to an unlimited data plan to accommodate the combined bandwidth consumption.

Tethering has a significant impact on ease of use. Connecting a Bluetooth-enabled laptop to a Bluetooth-enabled Smartphone is reasonably convenient but will eat into the phone's battery life. USB tethering may not consume as much handset power but requires carrying a cable and connecting it whenever Internet access is desired.

Mobile workers who need to talk on the phone while connected to the Internet cannot use one tethered handset to meet both needs simultaneously. When a laptop places a data call using a tethered modem, that phone cannot make or receive voice calls until the data session is terminated. Running a VoIP soft phone on the laptop is a possible work-around but is less convenient than just using the handset directly for voice calls.

Forgiveness

Learning to forgive can feel like one of life’s harder lessons. So many seemingly-logical objections arise such as "why should I, after what they did to me?"

However, long lasting bitterness, resentment and hate is so damaging, not only to your enjoyment of life, but to your health. Bitterness chews you up inside and spoil your time on this Earth.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean tolerating or excusing the bad that was done. But the shock, even horror of what happened needs to register only for a while. After that you need to move on from it for your own peace of mind.

Don't let resentment color all of life

The worst kind of bitterness is when a person is treated badly by one person but then starts to resent all people. This kind of negative over-generalizing is called ‘globalizing’ and you need to be aware that you don’t start to unfairly ‘tar everyone with the same brush'.

And as for thoughts of revenge there is a wonderful old saying: ‘Do unto others what is worthy of you, not what is worthy of them'. This encourages us to treat people in accordance with our own values and character regardless of what they have done.

Imagine when you can think about the events in question and feel calm and even indifferent. What a relief! How much more space you’ll have in your mind and life. When you truly forgive and move on you can put the past behind you and get on with life.